Did I marry the right person?

During one of the seminars, a woman asked a common question.
She said,"How do I know if I married the right person?"

I noticed that there was a large man sitting next to her so I said, "It
depends. Is that your husband?"
In all seriousness, she answered "How do you know?"

Let me answer this question because the chances are good that it's
weighing on your mind. Here's the answer.

EVERY relationship has a cycle. In the beginning, you fell in love with
your spouse. You anticipated their call, wanted their touch, and liked
their idiosyncrasies.

Falling in love with your spouse wasn't hard. In fact, it was a
completely natural and spontaneous experience.

You didn't have to DO anything. That's why it's called "falling" in
love... Because it's happening TO YOU.

People in love sometimes say, "I was swept of my feet." Think about the
imagery of that _expression. It implies that you were just standing
there; doing nothing, and then something came along and happened TO YOU.

Falling is love is easy. It's a passive and spontaneous experience. But
after a few years of marriage, the euphoria of love fades. It's the
natural cycle of EVERY relationship. Slowly but surely, phone calls
become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when
it happens), and your spouse's idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute,
drive you nuts.

The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship, but if you
think about your marriage, you will notice a dramatic difference between
the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry
subsequent stage.

At this point, you and/or your spouse might start asking, "Did I marry
the right person?" And as you and your spouse reflect on the euphoria of
the love you once had, you may begin to desire that experience with
someone else. This is when marriages breakdown. People blame their
spouse for their unhappiness and look outside their marriage for
fulfillment.

Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes. Infidelity is
the most obvious. But sometimes people turn to work, church, a hobby, a
friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances. But the answer to this
dilemma does NOT lie outside your marriage. It lies within it. I'm not
saying that you couldn't fall in love with someone else. You could.

And TEMPORARILY you'd feel better. But you'd be in the same situation a
few years later. Because (listen carefully to this):

THE KEY TO SUCCEEDING IN MARRIAGE IS NOT FINDING THE RIGHT PERSON; IT'S
LEARNING TO LOVE THE PERSON YOU FOUND.

SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. It'll NEVER
just happen to you. You can't "find" LASTING love. You have to "make" it
day in and day out. That's why we have the _expression "the labor of
love." Because it takes time, effort, and energy. And most importantly,
it takes WISDOM.
You have to know WHAT TO DO to make your marriage work.

Make no mistake about it. Love is NOT a mystery. There are specific
things you can do (with or without your spouse) to succeed with your
marriage.

Just as there are physical laws of the universe (such as gravity), there
are also laws for relationships. Just as the right diet and exercise
program makes you physically stronger, certain habits in your
relationship WILL make your marriage stronger. It's a direct cause and
effect. If you know and apply the laws, the results are predictable...
you can "make" love.

Love in marriage is indeed a "decision"... Not just a feeling.

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UNDERSTANDING IS A MUST

Understanding..... Must go thru!!!

A nice & touching story just go thru it...........

UNDERSTANDING IS A MUST

Sometimes we spend time asking who is responsible or whom to blame, whether

in a relationship, in a job or with the people we know.

We miss out some warmth in human relationship to give each other support.

Treasure what you have. Just a little story ....

A boy was born to a couple after eleven years of marriage.

They were a loving couple and the boy was the apple of their eyes. When the

boy was around two years old, one morning the husband saw a medicine bottle

open. He was late for work so he asked his wife to cap the bottle and keep

it in the cupboard. His wife, preoccupied in the kitchen totally forgot the

matter. The boy saw the bottle and playfully went to the bottle and

fascinated by its color, drank it all. It happened to be a poisonous

medicine meant for adults in small dosages. When the child collapsed the

mother hurried him to the hospital, where he died. The mother was

stunned. She was terrified how to face her husband. When the distraught

father came to the hospital and saw the dead child, he looked at his wife

and uttered just four words.

What were the four words ?

What is the implication of this story?

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ANSWER :

The husband just said "I Love You Darling"

The husband's totally unexpected reaction is a proactive behavior. The

child

is dead. He can never be brought back to life. There is no point in finding

fault with the mother. Besides, if only he had taken time to keep the

bottle

away, this would not have happened. No one is to be blamed. She had also

lost her only child. What she needed at that moment was consolation and

sympathy from the husband. That is what he gave her. If ! everyone can look

at life with this kind of perspective, there would be much fewer problems

in

the world. "A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step." Take

off all your envies, jealousies, unforgiveness, selfishness, and fears. And

you will find things are actually not as difficult as you think.

A SUCCESSFUL RELATIONSHIP REQUIRES FALLING IN LOVE MANY TIMES.....WITH THE SAME PERSON

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